Miscarriage Verses in the Bible
Miscarriage Verses in the Bible…for when you can’t find the right words
Few things are as painful as a miscarriage. And too often, mothers suffer in silence, or worse, are met with a lack of genuine care and compassion. It may be very difficult to fully understand the sorrow that accompanies a miscarriage if you haven’t experienced one yourself. I know that despite working in labor and delivery bereavement in the hospital setting for years, I could not truly understand the intense pain until I experienced miscarriage myself. For those who have not had to endure this hardship, you can offer love through prayer and biblical encouragement. Sometimes, simply saying “I’m praying for you” may not feel like enough. So, by using intentional bible verses, you can let your grieving friends or family know you are there to walk this journey of healing alongside them.
Below are a few bible verses that correspond with the five stages of grief. My hope is that they bring a sliver of comfort to anyone mourning a miscarriage and create a structured path to healing that enables friends and family to better walk alongside suffering mothers and fathers.
Bible Verse for - Denial
Psalm 55:4-7
“My heart is in anguish within me;
The terrors of death have fallen upon me.
Fear and trembling come upon me.
And horror overwhelms me.
And I say, ‘Oh, that I had wings like a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest;
Yes, I would wander far away;
I would lodge in the wilderness.’”
It may be tempting to deny the sorrow and grief that follow losing a child. Maybe it’s easier to put on a happy face for others than to untangle your emotions. I found it especially hard to accept our loss since I had already shared the good news about our pregnancy with family, friends, and social media. Maybe you’ve been made to feel like you don’t have the space to grieve. Or perhaps you’ve convinced yourself you’ve moved past it. Whatever the case may be, you are allowed to mourn. You are allowed to grieve. Losing your baby from miscarriage is no less of a loss than losing a child at any age. You became a mother (or father) the second your baby was conceived, and you will forever be a mother (or father) regardless of what side of heaven your baby is on.
Bible Verse for - Anger
Psalm 13:1-4
“How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I take counsel in my soul and have sorrow in my heart all the day?
How long shall my enemy be exalted over me?”
Don’t hide from your anger; the only way to get past it is to truly feel it. Plead with God. Call out to Him in this darkness. The Psalms are full of David expressing his most vulnerable thoughts with the Lord; he did not hold back or filter his emotions. More than anything, God desires an intimate relationship with you, which includes all of you. The good, the bad, and the angry. He is bigger than your anger, He can take whatever it is you are feeling.
Bible Verse for - Bargaining
Mark 14:36
“And he said, ‘Abba, Father, all things are possible for you. Remove this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.’”
Present your requests to God. Just as Jesus did on the cross, the Father desires our asking for His help. God is good when He delivers us from suffering, and He is still good even when He doesn’t. Jesus asked the Father to deliver Him from the cross; immediately following this request is His submission to the Father’s will. When asking to be delivered isn’t answered with a yes, ask to be equipped to endure. Ask for the strength to keep going. Suffering and tragedy do not come from God, but that doesn’t mean He can’t use it for His glory. God does not waste our suffering. While it’s difficult to understand why this happened or to see any good that could come of it, God is working in your pain according to His perfect will.
Bible Verses for - Depression
Psalm 34:18
“The Lord is near to the broken-hearted and saves the crushed in spirit”
God is a God of compassion (Psalm 145:8-9). He invites us to lay our burdens and sorrows upon Him. In Matthew 11, Jesus tells us to come to Him for rest, for He is gentle. The Lord knows your pain, and His heart breaks every single time yours does. Bring your tears to Him, for He will be gentle with you.
Bible Verse for - Acceptance
Habakkuk 3:17-19
“Though the fig tree should not blossom,
nor fruit be on the vines,
the produce of the olive
fail and the fields yield no food,
the flock be cut off from the fold
And there be no heard in the stalls,
Yet I will rejoice in the Lord:
I will take joy in the God of my salvation.
God, the Lord, is my strength;
He makes my feet like the deer’s;
He makes me tread on my high places.”
Acceptance doesn’t mean forgetting. Your baby’s life was not an accident, and it certainly will not be forgotten. Rather, acceptance is an act of trust. Trust that God is still sovereign, still good, and still loving. Trust that God will use this tragedy for His glory, that your suffering will not be wasted. And trust that His strength and peace will carry you through it.
Healing is a process, one that will take time and look messy. Another big thing to remember is that the grief process is not linear. You may feel the different stages in different order or you may be stuck in one stage for a prolonged period of time. Grieving doesn’t have to look a certain way. There may be days when you can’t identify with any of the five stages. There may be days when you feel all of them at once. Acceptance and sorrow are not mutually exclusive; there will still be hard days, but that doesn’t mean you’re moving backwards. Though, one thing is certain: God has never left your side.
